1. I would be happy to schedule some Skype or phone time with you over the next couple days to answer any questions you may have, and to see if my coming to your men’s group now is the best choice. Please let me know ASAP if you are interested.
2. Please indicate if you are interested in discussing the possibilities of planning a combination of men’s groups to include as many men as possible while I’m in town.
Looking forward immensely,
Erin Michaela Brandt, MS
I’ve been a men’s coach for 9 years, and I’m taking the next year to travel around the US, working directly with men’s groups, by donation.
And I’d love to talk to you to see if that might benefit your men’s group as I pass through your city.
I’m happy to talk on the phone or Skype so you can ask questions and see what, if anything, might work for your group.
A bit of background…
I started working with men during the Authentic Man Program in San Francisco about 9 years ago, giving reflection to men as they practiced being present, learning to track their feelings and sensations in their bodies, and interacting with women. I knew from my first weekend training with AMP that I wanted to work with men full time.
For the past 3.5 years, I’ve been traveling full time (US, Europe, Australia and New Zealand) teaching classes for men, couples and sometimes women, seeing my coaching clients on Skype along the way.
A few years ago, I started doing more reflection work with men’s groups – with the group as a whole, and then with individuals during the group – and I felt the most on purpose I ever have. As I’ve increased this work, the feedback has been powerful and consistent… that occasionally working with a compassionate woman can be crucial to jumpstart and add a valuable perspective to the work men do in group.
So, I decided that *I* would be most fed, and that I would be able to offer the most impactful work to the most number of men if I contained my travel to the US for a year, and worked with as many men’s groups as possible in that amount of time.
My plan is to be in each city for a minimum of a week, and longer if more groups who meet on conflicting nights ask me to stay.
So far this year, I’ve worked with groups in Boulder, Colorado, Gainesville, Florida and Sandpoint, Idaho.
(Sandpoint is a town of 7,800 people who’ve had a men’s group for 13 years. Can you imagine the impact?! I’ve extended my 2.5 week stay here by another two weeks!)
I’m happy to share some testimonials below from the Sandpoint and Florida men so you can get a sense of their response from the work we’ve done together.
I’ve worked directly in ManKindProject I-Groups and independent men’s groups. I have not yet worked in No More Mr. Nice Guy groups, though I look forward to it, if it works for your formats.
Back to logistics…
This US tour is a driving tour, so I won’t be back through your city for a year, most likely.
I’m happy to oblige whichever men’s group in your city reaches me first! And, I’m happy to discuss the possibilities of planning a larger men’s group to include as many men as possible while I’m in town.
I like the model of using men’s group nights as my community service and giving because I want to give to you. Then the group (or individuals, however you structure your group fees) gets to donate what they wish to me. I like creating more of a giving economy than a capitalist one for my men’s group work.
Men in the group often like to host me as I stay in town, and I love to stay with them, as we get to have “pajama talks”… more personal sharing time than when we are in the outside world. I could stay with friends outside the men’s groups. I can stay in hotels.
On this mission, the point of my traveling this way *is* to connect with as many people dedicated to men’s work as possible. I am eating, sleeping, breathing, and loving it!
And just to be abundantly clear, I consider men in men’s groups as clients, which means no dating or sexual behavior between us.
I teach my classes on nights that you don’t have men’s groups, and that sometimes covers expenses. I ask for people in the community to offer scholarships for those in the community who need them, and can benefit from classes. If classes are small, I love to host them in participants’ homes to save on expenses. As more people hear about this mission, I hope to build more of a fund to help more men who want help!
Testimonials from the men’s groups specifically that I’ve worked with this year:
“It was a pleasure and honor to see you in action. Thanks for showing up so powerfully and giving so much of yourself. Your rocked our group!
As I travel the country helping men start men’s groups, I am a huge fan of men teaching themselves what they never learned. There are times when men can benefit from a woman’s input when she appreciates and gets men—from the feminine perspective. If you are in a group—invite Erin to bring her magic. She’ll create something the group will never get on its own.
Like so many men, I try to figure out women. Erin taught us not how to figure women out, but how to connect with them. Isn’t that what we want?
As someone who understands and appreciates men, working with Erin was a hell of a lot of fun. Try her. You will come away glad you did.”
Founder of Sandpoint Men’s Group
“I have been in men’s group for over 10 years. In that time I have developed a much deeper understanding of myself and, as a result, dramatically improved the quality of all of my most important relationships. And yet, particularly with my wife, there were areas we just could not see eye to eye. Especially around sex and money. Erin was amazing. She helped me (and my wife) understand some of the inherent differences in men and women that make it a challenge to be a long term relationship. How we see the world, our communication styles and, even more deeply, our deepest needs as men. Erin’s passion for men’s work, her compassion for people and her ability to hold space to facilitate healthy learning was incredibly helpful to my most important relationship.”
“Erin offered our men’s group her energetic feminine presence, emanating confidence, radiance, vulnerability, and fearlessness. She truly affirmed and accepted men. Her skills and practices were evocative and effective, with a touch of wildness and innovation. After experiencing Erin, I now believe that men’s work must encounter the embodied feminine to activate our full potentials and clear our projections. Any men’s group would benefit greatly from inviting Erin into their circle.”
Eric Diamond, Ph.D.
Founder and Director of the Gainesville Men’s Center